Good morning beautiful,
You know what breaks my heart more than anything? And why I do what I do? The way we talk about our bodies. We are constantly putting ourselves down. We do it so much, we don't even know it. Body shaming has become a part of our daily vocabulary, and I'm on a mission to promote body positivity no matter your size.
The other day I was in the dressing room trying on clothes and I overhead a young lady, actually a teen -- say "These make my thighs look fat!" As if, like Cher would say from Clueless.
I was thinking to myself, like, “Oh No, at such a young age, already referring to herself as not good enough”. I feel fat, or am fat because a particular pair of jeans didn't quite fit right.
I instantly felt so sad for her and her future self. I saw her before she went into the dressing room, and she was a beautiful girl. The thing that made me happy was hearing her parents instantly correct her and said they looked fine, and no they don't make you look fat. I don't believe she got the pants, because it probably went in one ear and other about not looking fat. 😞
We have to change the way we speak about our bodies and around our children and teens, especially girls. We have to speak life, speak love to our bodies, and watch our actions - specifically how we treat our bodies.
Speaking of dressing rooms, I know those mirrors in there and the lighting be playing tricks on us, and whispering to us that we don't look good enough for said
piece of clothing, and they are lying! I have learned to hush those voices over the years. I know that my worth does not lie in my body fat, or how a dress or pair of jeans looks. This took daily practice and a whole heap of affirmations. But I got there and if you’re not there, you can too!
Hate the dressing rooms? Well, I do too.
- First off, they are hot AF! Every time, I try on some clothes - instant sweating begins. I don't know what it is -
You feel me?
- There usually dirty.
- The mirrors and the lighting seem to not paint anyone in the right light. I think they do on purpose.
The Solution
First - you are beautiful and the mirror is lying!
2nd - Clothes aren't made equal these days - and that’s okay, because we are all different. That's what
makes us unique.
3rd - If it doesn't fit our body well - try something different. Find something that accentuates and flatters or works with your body.
4th - Don't like the dressing rooms, like me? Take them home and try them on. Don't fit, then bring them back, if that works for
you. You see, at home, you can try them on in your own mirror and evaluate them and take your time, prance around the house :) to get a real feel. Plus, you won't be hot and rushing to make a decision on the item. A win, win, in my mind!
Don't let that voice inside your head be the cruelest voice you hear all day. Be kind an compassionate to yourself - you'd expect it from others, so hold yourself to the same standard. Speak kindly, be positive, and accept yourself - you can always work on improving, if that's what you want, but in the meantime accept yourself as you are. No amount of negativity is
going to make you feel better! My Favorite reads of the week:
Have a wonderful weekend!
Yours In Health and Happiness, xo Candace |
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